“Every women’s store should have a couch in it with ESPN.” I actually heard this incantation from a gentleman who was walking aimlessly through the women’s clothing section while his partner was trying on some clothes. His body language revealed that he was not comfortable with this chore. Come to think of it, next time you happen to find yourself shopping at a mall or outlet store, take note of the various postures men assume while “waiting” for their ladies trying on clothes—be one’s spouse, partner, daughter or mom.There is the “slouch” position as one leans over the clothing rack. This man looks tired and beat so he uses the rack to hold himself up from collapsing. Then, there are the nervous browsers who appear to be looking for something special while their maiden calls them over for a consult. Next, there are guys who “swing their shopping bags” which helps release nervous energy. Beware, you don’t want to get hit with what’s inside his shopping bag.
My favorite posture is the guy who “stands in place but keeps moving his feet from side to side.” This stance reminds me of a baseball coach on the baseline calling out signals to the player at bat. Most important is the silent, unspoken system where the man is called upon “to take a stance” on the color, design and style his soul mate might ask for guidance.
I highly recommend that you simply find a bench or chair near the changing section. On cue, when your “soul mate” calls out for an opinion you kindly offer not the typical “whatever” attitude but sincerely take a look at how everything fits and say “that’s you” or “you will find better.”
I wonder if we invited the Lord to come along to help us find clothes that are comfortable and make us look great what he might recommend. St. Paul told his followers to “put on Christ” and sparkle with a personality that reflects humility and kindness, gentleness and patience.
There are many moments in life when we are hesitant and look for some guidance on what will best fit our situation with style. What I know works best is an arm around one’s shoulder and words of encouragement that vanishes apprehension in that instant. I believe that we never forget the strength and reassurance we feel when our loved ones put their arms around us and quiet our pounding heart.
God prays for us as we reflect: “Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.”
(Colossians 3:12)
Lord, I pray for all my Sonshine Friends who find themselves swirling with decisions in life that make them scared and alone. My friends, if you will let God wrap His arms around you - you can be free from anxiety. I ask that the Spirit bless you with a Divine Touch. Let this one know that you will help them pick out the best clothes in life whenever you ask for guidance and help.
