Feedback from a Stranger

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The following is a true story that took place at Holy Family in North Java.

A person from out of town wrote in his journal that he wanted to start taking chances with strangers. Jerry wrote that he came to attend the 10am Sunday Mass and felt the call to sing in the choir. He got off the kneeler in his pew and walked to the front of the church and said, “Do you need another person to sing?” He remembered that there was a ten second pause. Then someone in the choir said, “Yes.”

Jerry thought to himself what did he have to lose. Nothing. The choir could have said come next week and audition, or there is not much room up here and we are pretty crammed in on this side of the sanctuary. But “no” he honestly opened himself up to the group and they welcomed him like he had been a family member all his life. Jerry wrote: “What a great community!”

Then someone asked him: “Are you any good at singing?” He said, “I’m OK.” The choir member responded: “We are all OK too! Here stand in the back, it is better if you are not up front.”

Jerry recalled that the members of the choir helped him with the music, which books to use and the page location of the hymns. They even had “kleenex” and he admitted that he cried after the “Penance Service.” Someone gave him the prayers for the penance service. The blessing that took place for each person in the church was most healing for hm. No one missed a beat, he wrote. They (choir) were awesome! Signed Jerry Rzatkiewicz

Lord, I pray for all my Sonshine Friends who are searching for a faith community where they feel the warmth and love of Jesus. The secret to our growing parish is “warmth.” Our choir said “yes” to Jerry and let him know that he was welcomed and appreciated for his willingness to share his voice and sing the praises of the Lord.

          

A Letter of Reference from the Poor

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In my town, the local board had filed complaints against 50 properties that were in violation of some property codes. It could a barn that’s falling apart, or rusted trucks or cars on the property, or God forbid, the neighbor’s grass is 10 inches high and that’s a violation of the town code. I suggested to a member of the town board that a better solution would be to help these property owners find a grant to clean up these properties like I helped my neighbor get rid of her trash and broken-down garage. In reality, I was grateful to Dan who came with his backhoe and helped me load two 30-yard dumpsters to get rid of all her trash.

Have you ever done something simply on principle, because it was the right thing to do, knowing that you couldn’t explain it to anyone, without there even being a good feeling attached to your act?

Jesus would agree that he makes this both the central tenet of religion and the overriding criterion for salvation. We see this in the famous text in the gospels where Jesus tells us that whatsoever you do to the poor here on earth you do to him. For Jesus, to give something to a poor person is to give something to God, and to neglect a poor person is to neglect God.

They had been asking Jesus: What will be the test? What will be the ultimate criterion for judgment as to whether or not someone enters into the kingdom of heaven or not? His answer surprised them. The religious of his day expected that judgment would revolve around issues religious practice, correct observance, and moral codes. Instead they got this answer:
“When the Son of Man comes in his glory and all the angels with him, he will sit on his throne in heavenly glory. All the nations will be gathered before him, and he will separate the people one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats. He will put the sheep on his right and the goats on his left.” (Matt 25:31)

And what, according to Jesus, will be the basis for the separation? Only this: did you feed the hungry? Give drink to the thirsty? Invite in the stranger? Clothe the naked? Visit the sick and imprisoned? Because when you do these things to the hungry, to the thirsty, to strangers, to the sick, and to the imprisoned, you do them to God, and vice versa.

 The Jewish prophets had taught us that serving the poor is a non-negotiable, integral part of religion, that nobody gets to heaven without a “letter of reference from the poor.” But Jesus adds:  God doesn’t just have a preferential option for the poor, God is within the poor.

Lord, I pray for all my Sonshine Friends who help their elderly neighbors  shopping, taking them for groceries or giving them a lift for a doctor appointment. Or, maybe the next time we are walking down the street and someone asks us for a handout, we simply buy them lunch. God is within the poor.

One more idea to practice this message. Our former rectory now houses a hospice for dying residents. It needs donations to continue to provide the best care to the dying and their families. Now would be a good time to secure your place in the kingdom and make a donation, or better yet, sponsor a fund-raiser in your community to support this hospice ministry.

To donate or volunteer contact: Tim Kibler, Director Charlotte House at
585-727-0942 or email timothy.kibler@charlottehouse.org
Make checks payable to: Charlotte House, PO Box 123, North Java, NY 14113.

The Miracle in North Java

Let me share a little miracle I witnessed today. No, it’s not the Buffalo Bills going 2 and 0 this week. Rather, a Catholic parish gathered for their annual outdoor picnic. I brought my collection of stuffed animals and discovered that one was missing.

I asked the kids to help me find “Spinach.” This hand puppet has been teaching about Jesus for over 40 years and sure enough a grownup finds him hiding in the pavilion rafters. Even though I have a very large collection, every one of them is very important to me and I would be very upset if one of them was lost.

That reminded me of a lesson that Jesus taught to a group of religious leaders one day. The religious leaders were very upset that Jesus was often seen associating with sinners. He was even sometimes seen eating with them. The religious leaders didn't like that at all and were very critical of Jesus. Jesus told them a story to help them to understand.

"Suppose one of you had a hundred sheep and you lost one of them," Jesus said. "Wouldn't you leave the ninety-nine who were safe, and go and search for the lost sheep? And when you found the lost sheep, wouldn't you joyfully put it on your shoulders and carry it back home? Wouldn't you be so happy that you would tell all of your friends about finding the lost sheep?" I imagine that all of the religious leaders had to agree that they would do just as Jesus had suggested. Then Jesus said to them in the same way, there is more rejoicing in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine righteous persons who do not need to repent."

The Bible teaches us that we are like sheep and sometimes stray away from God. I told the kids that “Arthur’ my pet kitty was hitting “Daisy” on the head with his paws. That’s like being a bully to your brothers and sisters and that makes God very sad, but he never gives up on us. Now here’s where I get to “hook” mom and dad and their neighbors into this wonderful story.

Jesus wanted us to know that God cares for us as people, and He will not let us wander and stray away. Sometimes we might do things that simply are not our best, like gossip or criticize our neighbor. Sometimes we make mistakes, or even turn our backs on God and His love. But He will “never leave us.” Nothing we can do will ever separate us from God’s love, and He’s always waiting with open arms to welcome us back into His family, if we should walk away. In fact, God loves us so much that, even though we do selfish things, He sent Jesus who gave His life for us! He didn’t just come for good people, but for all people. That is something to be thankful for.

Lord, I pray for all my Sonshine Friends who might think that God doesn’t listen to their prayers or gave up on them a long time ago. Like a Good Shepherd, Jesus is searching for you because he made you very special and He will help you if you ask.

By the way, the miracle I witnessed was the photo you are looking at top of this reflection. It shows all the young couples and their children of Holy Family. God’s love is contagious and these parents like to invite you to join our youthful and growing church family. Bring the kids!

Can I Count on You?

Many employees these days, work from home. One of the tricks to working at home is to make sure people know that you actually are working, so one man decided that he needed a professional-sounding voice-mail greeting so everyone would know he was hard at work.
As luck would have it, the moment he decided to record his message, his wife was across the hall from his office, folding clothes, while their six-year-old daughter was just getting out of the shower. Given that set of circumstances, you can understand why his so-called professional message ended up sounding like this:
Male voice: “Hi, this is Jeff with IBM.”
Female voice: “Look at you! You have no clothes on!”
Male voice: “I’m not available right now...”

Think of how many communications devices we have today: Facebook, Twitter, cell phones, texts and e-mail. And every one of them allows us to present the image of a constant presence — a constant availability to the world, but that presence is always on our own terms. Every one of them allows us to some degree to screen out those communications we don’t want to respond to. We can seem to be available when we really aren’t.

And that’s exactly what Jesus is talking about with the crowd when he says, “Whoever comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, yes, and even life itself, cannot be my disciple.” The word for hate is a Semitic expression meaning ‘to turn away from, to detach oneself from,’ rather than our animosity-laden understanding. In other words, Jesus is asking, “Will you set aside every other loyalty — as important as they are — and really be available to me? Can I really count on you?”

Sadly, we fail to make ourselves available with all kinds of excuses and put ourselves on “voice mail.” We get the call, know the caller, but refuse to answer because we don’t want to be available.

Christ was available for you and me. And he asks us to be available to walk in his footsteps. Are we willing to do that or are we too attached to our own plans, our easy lives and our usual way of doing things?

Lord, I pray for all my Sonshine Friends who find the humility to be available to a neighbor, veteran, coworker, abandoned kitty and family. Give us the compassion and commitment to put ourselves in an uncomfortable position, Help us to walk in your footsteps.

Whose on Your Invitation List?

It’s a wedding and the ushers are standing around in a strange church, feeling awkward, and kidding one another. The father of the groom decides to inform them that it’s their job to escort guests into the pews. Groom’s family on the right, bride’s family on the left. Then out of nowhere a stranger dumps four boutonnieres on a table in the vestibule. The guys are clueless, so like it’s Mother’s Day for me as I take each flower and instruct the guys to hold still. I am now the onsite florist making the men look handsome for the money shot since their photographer expects them to be wearing a flower for “the wedding” portfolio.

I notice another boutonniere left the table and bet that this must belong on the groom.  So, I race back to the sacristy and tell Chris to shut up and stand still. Of course, he’s nervous and babbling about something, but I got his boutonniere to pin on him and tell him that he looks great!

It’s about two minutes before the wedding, and hiding in the sacristy are dad, our deacon, his son, the groom and me. I’m listening to our Eastman School of Music graduate students playing Ave Marie on their cello and violin. The next moment, I hear Chris crying and asking for a tissue and he says, that he misses his grandmothers and wishes that they were was here for his wedding. Then dad starts to shed a tear and I have these two men quietly sobbing seconds before we are to walk into the sanctuary.

So, I let them shed their tears. For obviously, it about love for a special grandmother and a mom whom they miss and I say a simple pray to God that these grandmothers watch over this wedding and make it perfect.

Well, grandma did a great job for the wedding ceremony was perfect. Dad preached a great homily, the groom’s mom looked proud of her son, and his sisters were beaming in their wedding party gowns. The bride was gorgeous and I did not embarrass any of her family members or friends who are Baptist leading them through the service. I praised their support as they gave their blessing for their daughter to marry our Catholic groom. 

Much different scenario, when at the reception my parishioner married over fifty years ago remembered that he was married at the communion rail because he was Protestant marrying a Catholic girl.

Jesus message in the gospel is different from what he experienced for the Lord encourages us to review our guest list and, in a display of proper etiquette, be sure that everyone has a seat. When we live in a spirit of humility, we focus less on ourselves and much more on how to ensure that we make space for everyone. We extend an invitation to others, expecting nothing in return.

Lord, I pray for all my Sonshine Friends that we give up our seat and invite all to dine with us that includes: immigrants, refugees, migrants, women, girls, victims of human trafficking, mentally Ill, physically challenged, children, youth, people of differ sexual orientation, religions, ethnicity, country of origin, people of low socio-economic status, the unemployed, and incarcerated people and their families.

Locked Out of Heaven's Gate?

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This is a true story. I got off work, went out to my car, hit the button for the doors on my remote unlocker – as usual. Nothing happened. I tried it a few more times, battery must be dead. I stand there for 10 minutes, mashing the little button, hoping for enough juice to open the doors. Nada.

I call a locksmith, explain that I’m locked out of my car. He says he’ll be right over. 20 minutes later he arrives. He walks up with his tools, inserts a thing that looks like a blood pressure cuff in the door jamb. He starts making conversation as it inflates, pushing the door open: “So locked your keys in the car? No problem sir, I’ll have it open in a minute.” No, my keys are right here, my key fob is dead,’ I replied.

He stops and for about 10 seconds doesn’t say a word. He sees my keys in my hands. Takes them from me, inserts them in the lock and opens the door.
I was mortified. I was so in a habit of opening the doors with my remote fob that I entirely forgot that keys could be used to unlock cars manually. He started laughing so hard I thought he was going to have an aneurysm. After he stopped laughing, he told me there was no charge. The story he’d have to tell was worth the drive out.

Jesus tells two parables about someone asking a favor at a late hour. They teach us a lot. Maybe you remember the first one, there was a man knocking on a friend’s door at midnight, wanting to borrow some bread. The friend yelled back, Don’t bother me; the door has already been locked and my children and I are already in bed. I cannot get up to give you anything. But he does. Jesus says: “I tell you, if he does not get up to give him the loaves because of their friendship, he will get up to give him whatever he needs because of his persistence.”

Jesus message is this: “ask and you will receive; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. Doesn’t it feel good knowing that constant prayer will get the door opened?

Well, hold back that feeling for a while. Look at this Sunday’s Gospel. Here again someone is knocking on the door late at night, but receives nothing. The master of the house says, I do not know where you are from. The one knocking reply: “But we ate and drank in your company and you taught in our streets.”

Look carefully at those words: These people are mere casual acquaintances, if that. Something like this: we liked what you did, and now we want more!
The master says, I do not know where you are from. Depart from me, all you evildoers!

Ouch. What about “ask and you shall receive”? As if to rub it in, Jesus says,
There will be wailing and grinding of teeth when you see the saved ones—
Abraham, Isaac and Jacob and all the prophets—looking down from heaven
while you are being cast out!. Locked out of heaven’s gate is no joke.

What is going on here? Is Jesus just in a bad mood? We know that he is “making his way to Jerusalem” when he tells this parable, walking straight into the crucifixion, and maybe he is just anxious.

Yet notice that, in his prior parable, even though the owner opens the door just to get the noise stopped, the interruption was being caused by a friend—even if a rude one—who would not stop asking for what he needed. That parable told us to keep asking God, our friend, for what we need, even though he may be a bit grumpy.

But in this parable, the people outside are not friends and in fact they have no relationship at all to the man in the house. The parable states that they knew about him only from parties and from the streets. They did not come to his house at a reasonable time and begin a friendship. No amount of midnight knocking will make up for it.

What is the message? That God keeps the door open long beyond what we would expect, all the way to the end. But if we are too busy partying and dancing, then finally there is nothing he can do. He has to accept our decision to stay outside.

Serious question to ask someone you know who doesn’t come to church except at Christmas. Why don’t they want a friendship with Jesus? Let them know it’s never too late to start the relationship. After all, we don’t want anyone to be locked out of heaven’s gate?

Lord, I pray for all my Sonshine Friends that they get to know God now. Let us not procrastinate or make excuses until we get to heaven’s gate and have nothing to show for ourselves.

The Winning Bid

A proud grandmother is sitting in a hot, crowded barn waiting for the animal auction of her grandchildrens’ farm animals. Yes, I find myself at the annual county fair learning how children “on the farm” are taught the values of respect and proper care for God’s pigs, lambs and steers. Grandma Jean explained to this “urban priest” that it starts in the Spring when mom and dad buy a pig, or lamb or cow for their child. There is this understanding that the child takes care of this animal meaning, no nonsense, you get up in the morning and clean the pen, shovel out the manure, rake in fresh straw, fetch fresh water and feed. Don’t forget that you are going to show your animal to the judges and show them that you can control your animal. So that means practice, like every day, you take your animal for a walk and teach it manners so that it doesn’t buck, kick, pull or run over the judges during your showmanship competition. By the way, the child does this everyday even on the days it doesn’t feel like it. After all, the animals’ poop and need water and food despite our occasional cranky moods. Once the child shows their animal in the ring and the auctioneer screams out the winning bid. The parents will take the winnings, deduct the costs of the animal, food and vet bills, and the remaining amount goes into their child’s savings account. No money is used for foolish things like a more expensive iPhone. Another good lesson in life. 

As the auction begins, I am sitting next to Chris, the dad who is keeping score. There were over 130 pigs being auctioned, and he is marking down the winning bids and the company and/or person who made the highest bid. He is a generous and an exceptional kind employer. He plans to bid on several pigs and have them packaged and donate the meat to his employees for their loyalty and hard work.

What makes me humbled is that our parishioners are present and plan to bid on a steer. The parish committee agreed to donate the steer meat to Angel Action, a local county social service agency. The agency will share the meat with several hurting families in need of food. 

I am sitting next to Bob, our parishioner, who has marked his score card with the steer he wants to bid on. The auctioneer starts rattling off the numbers and as God would have it, Bob holds up his card and the auctioneer screams $2.75. Holy Family has bought half a cow that weighs 1138 pounds. The parish has just donated $1564.00 to feed the poor! Awesome.

Lord, I pray for all my Sonshine Friends who are grateful for the many comforts you have provided them in their homes and community. Help us to teach our children respect for all creatures great and small. Then help us to be aware of those in need in our home, our neighborhood, or our community and show them your generosity and compassion in their time of need.  

Oops, She's Gone

I asked a wonderful mentor this question: "Give me some hints on how I should prepare to die?"

With a grin on her face, she simply shared that she hopes to be surrounded by her friends at her bedside, when someone will turn, look and say:
“Oops, she’s gone!”

Jeanette, my dear Neumann friend, has learned to cope with her cancer diagnosis for some time now. Her treatments are a routine part of everyday life. She has a deep faith in God and a profound wisdom from living a life that was not pampered as she describes her life for she had her share of scars. Instead of living in fear, not so much fear of the afterlife or even fear that there might not be an afterlife, she spends each moment living her life filled with love and passion for her family and loyal friends.

Her joyful nature shines when with a twinkle in her eye she says: “What do you think makes God laugh?” Her answer: “when people makes plans.” She knows that we rest in the hands of a kind and merciful God. Instead of fretting about the hour of our death, she chooses to live her life as a gift. She spends her days not dying but living and loving the people that God has given to her because she says that one day He will want them back.

It’s a good question that we prefer not to think about. How do we prepare to die? How do we live so that death does not catch us unaware? What do we do so that we don’t leave this world with too much unfinished business?

I shared a story with Jeanette about a young student who was dying of cancer. In the final stages of his illness, he came to see his old professor and said something to this effect.

Professor, you once told us something in class that has made it easier for me to die young. You said: “There are only two potential tragedies in life, and dying young isn’t one of them. These are the two tragedies: If you go through life and don’t love and if you go through life and you don’t tell those whom you love that you love them.”

When the doctors told me that my cancer was terminal, I realized how much I’ve been loved. I’ve been able to tell my family and others how much they mean to me. I’ve expressed love. People ask me: “What’s it like being 24 years old and dying?” I tell them: “It’s not so bad. It beats being 50 years old and having no values!”

Once again, Jeanette in her infinite wisdom after she heard this story shared that its best to have a positive attitude by loving deeply and expressing our love for those people who have made a difference in our life.

She was told by her doctors that she runs the risk of bleeding to death if she falls so she needs to be very careful when she walks around her home. However, unexpectedly she felt some pain, calls her doctor at 3am and he responds in 5 minutes and orders her to urgent care. A few tests later and a kidney stone is discovered. So back in surgery she goes. A little tuck here and a stint there and she’s back at home safe and sound. As she says, “it doesn’t pay to waste your time worrying about falling down when something totally unrelated can occur.” She just feels blessed that she has a compassionate and smart medical team helping to keep her going each day. Her goal is to live well one day at a time. And for another day she is grateful to God for a life filled with beautiful and appreciative friends.

 What makes it hard to die is that we have so much life yet to finish and we best finish it by loving more deeply and expressing our love more freely.

When Jeanette corners Our Lord in prayer, I am sure that she might tell Him that the best way to prepare for death is by living your life as a gift. Work at loving more deeply, less discriminately, more affectionately, and more gratefully. Tell those close to you that you love them and death will never catch you like a thief in the night.

Lord, I pray for all my Sonshine Friends who are dying or worse not yet ready to move on into your promised glory. First, let’s agree that there’s nothing noble about pain, so let’s do all we can to relieve the suffering of those in our care. Let us be confident that God wants us to have peace of mind. Let go of all your fears and anxiety about death for Jesus comes to bring us His salvation because He loves us all passionately.  

Who Are Your Mentors?

On Saturday, I attended a dedication music workshop for an old friend who I miss very much, Bishop Peplowski. This was a holy man who invited me to come and learn about the Polish National Catholic Church. Needless to say, he had a hidden agenda in mind for me. He had just established a new Catholic country church in North Java and he was searching for a mentor “shepherd” to be the right fit for this community.

At the music concert that had gathered, 45 choir members from around the country came to  celebrate their passion for music. The story was shared that Bishop Peplowski had translated many hymns and encouraged musicians in their education to enhance the music liturgies of his parishes around the globe. The concert was a celebration of his life and love for the Blessed Mother that included a hymn, Ave Marie.

Let me share a glimpse of this spiritual mentor in my faith journey. He welcomed all people no matter what religious tradition they had come from Roman, Polish or anyone searching to learn about the Lord’s compassion and love.

The best way to describe Bishop “Pep” is that he saw the potential of each person he met. His warm smile, gentle hug, and wonderful “dry” humor meant he never took himself too seriously. On the inside of each person, he saw a beautiful cathedral of crystals. In his presence, he skillfully polished every angle of a person until a beautiful diamond glittered brilliantly.

“See” before the Lord, “we are rough around the edges” but he knew the hidden beauty and the value in each person he met and so it freed us from our coat of dirt, the self-centered attitude we muck around in our daily life. In his presence, you would sparkle!

Let me share that we may feel that sometimes our life gets "coated" with worry, anxiety and fretting. What we need to do is to let the Lord free us. Our Heavenly Father can see the beauty that lies within. In fact, He said, "He has made everything beautiful in its time." (Eccl. 3:11)

Bishop knew what was inside of me, the desire to mentor a reborn Catholic community that had been closed. So the Lord certainly knows what is in you, my friend. Please don't mar your beauty or cover it up with undo anxiety. Cast your burdens on the Lord!

Lord, I pray for all my Sonshine Friends who often do not feel they are "beautiful". The world has put on us a lot of guilt and shame. When we buy into this we are coating ourselves with lies and deception. Let us be freed and reflect and sparkle with the Light of the world.

ASK ASK ASK ASK ASK

The Lord’s prayer requires us to trust God enough to tell him what we want—over and over and over.

The second thing to notice about the Lord’s prayer is that people don’t generally get what they ask for. Ask and you will receive, the Lord says. But how many people around the world pray the Lord’s prayer and go without food that day? And food is only the beginning. In every mass, we ask God for healing: “Only say the word and my soul shall be healed.” Then we lug our sinful, sick, and sorrowful souls around another day. 

So here is the third thing to notice. Jesus doesn’t promise that we will get the very thing we ask for. He says that if we ask, we will receive; but he doesn’t happen to mention what we will receive.

If you think about it, you can see the point. If a sick person could heal himself, he would be the doctor, not the patient. The patient’s job is to want to get well. It is the doctor’s job to figure out how to get him well.

In the same way, the Lord’s prayer requires us to trust God enough to tell him what we want—over and over and over. Our job is to ask continually. God’s job is to figure out what to give us that will really fill us and heal us.

So we might not get what we ask for. But as long as we keep asking, the Lord promises that we will receive—grace, pressed down, shaken together, running over, and gently given, from the God who loves us.

Lord, I pray for all my Sonshine Friends who are ASKING You for another favor. Take away aching knees, the pain in the elbow, heal our family member’s cancer, make the fear of death go away, and bring peace to our family. Let me end this reflection with this simple, easy-to-remember, pocket size prayer: “Father, you are good. I need help. Heal me and forgive me. They need help. Thank you. In Jesus’ name. Amen.”

Please pray for Jeanette's grand nephew Micheal who is recovering from a heart surgery. May the Lord heal Mike with a speedy recovery.

An Island of Being Calm

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In church today, we meet the M & M sisters, Mary and Martha. They are two peas in the same pod and yet so different. Martha and Mary live in the same town - Bethany in Judea. They live in the same house. They have the same brother - Lazarus. How can two sisters, so alike, be so different?

We are told by Luke, that Jesus comes to Bethany and to the two sisters' home for a visit. This is one of many happy times they spend together. Rest, conversation, and friendship, no doubt, occupy their time. Mary sits at Jesus' feet as a disciple would sit at the feet of a rabbi master: listening, observing and learning. Martha is busy with her many tasks in the household and rather crossly asks, "Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to do all the work by myself? Tell her then to help me.” Seems like a reasonable request.

Every church needs a Martha. Change that. Every church needs a hundred Marthas. Sleeves rolled up and ready. Because of Marthas, the church budgets get balanced, church buildings get repaired and cleaned, babies get bounced on loving knees in the nursery. You don't appreciate Marthas until a Martha is missing - and all the Marys of the church start scrambling to find the keys to lock doors, turn off the lights and turn off the fans. Yes, Marthas are the Energizer Bunnies of the church. They keep going and going and going.

However, Jesus says, "Martha, Martha, you are worried and distracted by many things; there is need of only one thing. Mary has chosen the better part, which will not be taken away from her.” Mary, sitting at the feet of Jesus, looks into the eyes of the Master. Mary listens to his words, his teachings. Mary feels loved, special, affirmed, and graced by Jesus. "Mary has chosen the thing needful ..." whereas Martha hurries and scurries about.

The basis idea is to create an island of being in the sea of constant doing in which our lives are usually immersed, a time in which we allow all the “doing”  to stop. Three flies get into Martha's soup: worry, distraction, and resentment.

Lord, I pray for all my Sonshine Friends whose lives have become so frantic that we miss living in the moment. Help us to stop all the doing and shift over to a “being” mode where we learn how to make time for ourselves and nurture calmness.

Blessed are the Caregivers

Who is at the side of the road in your life and needs a helping hand? For me, my neighbor Maggie enjoys living in her renovated home after receiving grants to remodel her home to make it safe and comfortable.

The next step was to find out what government services were available since she only survives on her social security. This adventure dealing with our government system can be best described with the acronym (YGTBK) “You Got to Be Kidding.”

The Office of the Aging was helpful in suggesting that due to her low income she was eligible to apply for SSI to help pay her bills. However, to our dismay she was denied since she had two life insurance policies. We learned that to qualify for SSI you are not allowed to have no more than $2000 in your savings and/or checking account.

Next step, she decided to surrender her life insurance policies and apply the funds to a pre-funeral account. This decision helped complete her funeral arrangements and her savings would be below the $2000 limit. We waited on the phone for three hours to make a follow-up appointment with social security, but gladly returned and she was approved for SSI.

The next step, no you are never done as a caregiver. We helped apply for in-home care services. After a three-hour interrogation process, she was approved. Then a state agency had to be selected and another three-hour investigation finally approved home care to keep her safe.

Sadly, Maggie is still waiting for the agency to complete their paperwork, but our hope is that these services will bring her a “caregiver” an in-home aide, who will get to know Maggie and make her life safe and comfortable.

Lord, I pray for all my Sonshine Friends who serve as caregivers for family, neighbors and friends. The Beatitudes for Caregivers: 

Blessed are those who sleep poorly because they're worried about their loved one or because their loved one wakes in the middle of the and needs help, for theirs is the Kingdom of heaven. 

Blessed are those who mourn because their loved one, though still alive, is slipping away because of dementia, for they will be comforted. 

Blessed are the meek who force themselves to speak up and speak out to make sure their loved one receives the help they need, for they will inherit the land. 

Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for answers to why this is happening to their loved one and how much longer it will go on, for they will be satisfied. Blessed are those who show mercy, kindness and compassion to their loved one, for they will be shown mercy, kindness and compassion. 

Blessed are those who keep clean a love one who is physically or mentally unable to keep themselves clean, for they will see God. 

Blessed are those who helped their loved one find moments of peace, for they will be called children of God. 

Blessed are those who are misunderstood, not appreciated, and taken for granted in their role as caregiver, for theirs is the Kingdom of heaven. 

Blessed are you whose caregiving efforts are unjustly criticized -- or who are falsely accused of not caring about others -- because of your love for your care-receiver...and your love for God, who has asked you to help his beloved son or daughter. 

Rejoice and be glad, for your reward will be great in heaven.